Vicki here. . .
Bronnie Ware was a palliative care worker for many years. She spent many remarkable hours with people during the last 3 to 12 weeks of their lives.
She found that people are capable of great insight when facing their own mortality. When asked what they regretted not doing in their lives, the most common response was lacking the courage to live an authentic life, “not the life others expected of me.”
They also regretted not letting themselves be happier. They did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had settled for less to please others, too often compromising what they truly wanted in order to keep others happy.
They wished they had worked less and connected more with friends.
In the end, they lamented that they lacked the courage to express their feelings honestly.
Still time enough
At the end of your life, what will you regret? Will you wish you had followed your dreams and expressed your feelings more honestly with loved ones? Will you wish you had enjoyed more love and sexual intimacy? Despair not, because while you are still breathing, there is always time to change your life for the better.
If any of the above resonates with you, take heart because making a few small changes here and there will improve things.
If you want to connect deeply with loved ones, show them more physical affection. Get up right now and go to your beloved, look lovingly into their eyes, and embrace them. Or, give your child a warm, loving hug and tell them you love them. . .or give your mother-in-law a soft kiss on the cheek.
The new year is always a good time to ask ourselves how we can live a life more attuned to our heart’s desire. What must you do now so that you won’t be filled with regrets at the end of your life?
We at Lovegetsbetterafter60 encourage you to open your heart to love in the coming new year. Whatever form that takes, that is our new year’s wish for you!
Kevin here. . .
Ten years ago, I was diagnosed with leukemia. I had every sign indicative of a poor prognosis. Fortunately, advances in medicine have kept me alive, and I am still going strong!
So, I know why people say that having a life-threatening illness is a blessing in disguise. What I learned from my close call is that our time on Earth is short. We must pursue the life we wish to lead today.
So think deeply, decide what is really important to you, and go for it!
Vicki and I wish you all the best in the coming new year!
See Ware’s complete article, 5 Top Regrets of the Dying, for her take on regret-free living.
What is one adjustment you can make to ensure that you don’t have regrets? Let us know in the comments below!